2006年9月15日

對自己寬容

以前我寫過呢篇文章,忽然覺得,風水輪流轉,我自己愈來愈變得似文章入面嗰位我好討厭嘅同事--一樣死纏爛打另一個人。

世事冇完美。甲君同乙君趣味相投,一見面一通話可以雞啄唔斷。有啲人際關係只係單向,我鍾意搵你傾偈,但你唔想同我傾,響電話講幾句已經好唔耐煩,趕住要收線。

話不投機半句多。理智會同你講,既然人哋唔想聽,你再去煩對方,只會惹人更加討厭。但感情經常蓋過理性,當你覺得對方係唯一可以分享一啲事情嘅對象,佢唔睬你,你又搵唔到第二個人去講,隻手自然又去撥佢個電話,打得多,連自己都唔好意思,好似騷擾緊佢。

好啦,寫到呢處就算。人哋或者根本唔係咁諗,不過唔得閒應酬自己啫;寫得愈多,愈被誤會我對佢有偏見,弄假成真就唔太好。

人生不如意事十常八九,對現實開始感到煩悶厭倦,不如另闖一片新天地。被動不如主動。現實唔理想,改變唔到,可以試一個新環境,認識新人新事物;舊嘅生活方式愈整愈冇趣味,搵多啲新嘢試吓。

堅持有時係美德,過份堅持變死板。

一架巴士開走咗,死都要等下一班先上車,原來走咗嗰架係尾班車,冇得等。有咁多巴士你揀,搭第二條線,或者行遠幾步路先到,或者要轉車,但行程可能別有一番風景。「唔好為一棵樹放棄一座森林」,呢句老話,唔單止應用於愛情,適用地方仲有好多。

以前買一樣嘢,總要問清問楚,搵朋友打探攞意見,或者上網睇無數個討論區,直到認為目標物品無懈可擊,係最好嘅一件先決定買。定個咁高要求,其實幾辛苦,單係搜索呢個過程就極度浪費時間,而且世上絕對冇一樣「最好」嘅嘢,皆因「好」係主觀嘅,因人而異。更何況我討厭二手貨,人人讚好嘅嘢,遲啲手隨時冇得買。所以,應該開懷一啲,唔需要「最好」,只要「好」就得......

......於是,今日決定做白老鼠,只憑一啲初步資料,買咗一件未有太多人評論嘅新產品。與其寄望人哋俾好嘅評語,不如自己俾,更重要係,容許自己俾壞嘅評語--假如真係有。對自己寬容一啲,買錯咗唔等於世界末日。

1 則留言:

Edward Hong 說...

Where does your friend now ? You don't chat with him now ? Or he is disappears ? Hey, he really escapes me now (perhaps you may know the reason).

Huh, I don't know why you said I haven't find you, maybe you forget I called you couple of times invited you come out. Beside you have work, we don't happy you tell us some unsensible reasons, you should know we can't always meet together nowadays. I understand you have some reasons to absent last dinners, we also known that long time. Why not just tell us your actually reasons ?

Anyway, I agree Mr. Bear says you thought too much. He also discussed with me many times. Sometimes I discover you have your answer before you ask our advise. I don't think it is problem, as it is your own business, we can't stop or affect your choise and decision. But, if you stop to ask our advise, you will have big chance to make a wrong decisions as like as your dog ages.