有人願意死纏你，若對方是美女，歡迎也來不及！
不過，若那是一個男子，大大不妙也！
此君是同機構另一部門的職員，個子瘦小，嗓門有點高，一副孩子臉，膚色頗白，你可以聯想到甚麼？或許沒有問題，但對我來說，總覺有點兒不對勁。
我們的辦公室位處不同地點，但公務上他不時會過來我那裏。有一次不知怎麼他找到攀談，言談間他得悉我們是中學校友（他比我遲七、八屆），他像如獲至寶，每次遇見我總想和我混得很熟，天南地北無所不談。
但他的熱情令我對他有點戒心。我想，我不是和你太熟絡，也不願太熟絡。不過他不察覺，仍舊如是，我開始怕了他。每次和他談話都是三句起兩句止，而且一直用不耐煩的態度對待他，心想，快走吧！
前 兩星期搭巴士上班，我坐下層，他在中途站上車，避不了，下層只有幾個乘客，他偏要坐我鄰座，我習慣是戴了walkman聽音樂的，他坐下來，我沒打算理 睬他，他又是不斷地要找我聊天，竟問我正在聽甚麼歌，還有意伸手來摘耳筒，我只有脫了耳筒，寒暄兩句便算。每次他愛和我談母校的情況，這次不例外，說快到校 慶搞聚餐開放日，有沒有興趣回去......接他又說母校收生愈來愈差，以前是名校，現在變band 3中學......
我想，如果你認為母校愈搞愈差，為何要常常提起它又批評它？我對母校的印象已模糊得很，何況當年的老師同學不是退休便是移民，大部份失去了聯絡。
本來要到他辦公室樓下轉車到我的辦公室，但是我看看手表，那車剛走了，不如早一站下車坐另一線車（這次我不是刻意逃避他），他竟說：「下甚麼車？」我沒理他，起來就走。難道陪他走到他辦公室樓下去？
也許你會說我對他冷酷無情，對，我也覺有點是，但是每個人也有擇友的自由吧。話不投機半句多，我和他的關係只建立在校友一層，還是遠年校友呢，其他方面的溝通......說不上甚麼，哪又何苦強行當好友來交？
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Very good ! Sometimes some people don't know they are very trouble and be discomforted, they like find you talk sky and land whole day and don't want to feel are you interest it or not, even girls or boys. Fortunately, I am delightd to be a listener, as I think each people have their own tale, their tales are different. If I have time, why not open my mind to hear that ?
One day, when I was travelling MTR, one elder was sitting beside me, she seemed seventy-something and her activity doesn't not rapidly. She asked me first, 'Why so few people today, does any confuse ?' I replied her 'Oh, just holiday today, people don't need to work, so the train becomes not busy.' And we talked couple of mintues, she has gone away as she needed leave the train, at last I asked her, 'Take care, bye.'
I think, if you would want to know more and more different friends, you must open your mind first, take care to any people that beside you. If you just want to be cared, then it as same as builds a wall beside you.
You may read my post again. Not like your case, I won't be a listener of him, because he always like to know every thing about me. Do you like Or---e always want to gossip with you, even you have shown you have no interest?
The different just is confuse and be confused. Did you want or have any hope to change your conversations beside your secondary school ?
No. He acts like a man tries as much as possible to know a prosepctive girlfriend's particulars, such as where to live, what things they like, what are her interests ... oh no, a man do the same thing to another man, won't you feel stranged? If I don't stop him, maybe one day he would be present in our gathering! Do you like to be his friend? I take him to you next time if you do.
Strange ? If don't know these basic data of you, how to know you ?
Maybe, you really find one book about relastionship to read. It can help you.
Has you read my blog, I recommended some books about that, although they are english version, some of them have chinese version as I can found in library or book store.
Little prince, you become blind again. Read again my last sentence: "everyone has the right to select his friends." Note the word "select". You seem to be conditional-reflex to urge me to "love everybody" and then conclude my personality has a problem and I should read this and that... What's wrong with me not to welcome a person not my cup of tea?
Sigh, then let me think one night and reply you later !! Perhaps, I'll be wrote in somewhere ...
The key point is, he did not recognize my feeling. He acted as being a very close friend of me every time we meet even I have showed him every time I don't like his being so close to me like a girl friend. The feeling of "strange" aroused when I associated it with homosexual.
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