2006年8月21日

另類?

我常覺得給人誤會自己很另類。

其實不。一個普通不過,但間中帶點矛盾的人。只是遇上某些至愛的東西便會很堅持,很固執,即使是非主流的東西,我也不從俗,別人都管不着,才給人這麼一個印象。

一個近例:沒有女朋友。有些摯友會着急,因為大家都「泊岸」了,你為何還在海中兜轉?接着有人開玩笑地說,可能我不喜歡女人吧!這真的是笑話。有些人愛用「簡單二分法」,非黑即白,沒女友就是「攣」的?不管別人怎麼說,我自知不是就行了。

但無論如何,這重要的事情,急不得。一急就會出事,手尾還會很長。

總相信最好的伴侶,一定是個令彼此都歡喜的人,即使要大灑金錢,犧牲自己的愛好,改變自己的習慣,一定是自願和自然,而非不樂意和被迫的。事事遷就對方,將自己裝成對方心中的理想人物(我強調這個「裝」字,他根本不是某種人,卻要強行變成那樣),仍要強顏快樂,這不要得,最終會後悔。

我沒變,便給標籤為固執。不是不肯變,只是時機未到。一眾愛做月姥的朋友們,你們還有成功的機會。

早陣子有幾位朋友分頭對我談及「某人的前度女朋友」,我猜到他們為何忽然會提起這個素未謀面的人,至少未聽聞過她的名字。我沒所謂,認識多一位朋友總不是壞事。

只希望大家不要重蹈覆轍,以為我要求很高,像以前一些失敗的個案,認識了一群專業人士,但這些人的目光比我更窄,她們一天到晚只想工作的事情,其他都顧不了,生活裡都沒有空隙談情說愛,如何入手?對我來說,愈簡單愈好就行,當然沒奢望像我的朋友某般,戀上一個完全沒有要求的女孩子,他倆不知多麼易相處,簡直難以想像!

3 則留言:

Edward Hong 說...

Bear, as I discussed with you; if the girl doesn't have any demand to the boy, or doesn't have wish of their live. I think the boy wil be lost the interest to find the girl shortly. Of course, we know that 'simple is the best' or 'less is more', those are our truth, but we don't forget sometimes our live should have little bit surprise if we want this live more fantasticality. So, if we just receive but don't want to give (as she doesn't have demand, thus no need give them anything), it maybe unfair and we can't study how to love another, either your friends, family or girl friend.

Therefore, if we wish one simple girl becomes our girl friend, I think we can buy a doll in toy shop or bear a electronic-pet through internet. Perhaps it is more suitable for us.

崎臣 說...

既然大家有回應,該在這裡說說。

那個「完全沒有要求的女孩子」的一場戀愛簡單得頗不正常,沒人相信他們能相處一起那麼久,對,不像一個人,更像一個洋娃娃。這是個極端的例子,不值得羨慕。得來太易,最終沒有珍惜的心,你猜會有甚麼結果?

Edward Hong 說...

Hallo Mr. K, as my reply as above, if we (i don't know who, just you and me, or everyone) received too much but the mind don't want to give anything, we don't know what is love.

So I don't surprise the relationship of them is poor.